
At my workshops, we do one or more writing prompts to the inner critic, to the inner child, or to ourselves. Things we want to let go of. Things we need help with. We also often write words about ourselves that we want to leave behind or embrace. I believe words have a lot of power behind them and the words we choose to speak, even to ourselves, have impact.
This was from our "Facing the Inner Critic" Firewalk and Workshop back in April 2025. Roman, Rider, and Alexa (left to right) are letting go of their inner critic messages.
It's hard to let go. I've seen some presenters and videos just telling people to let it go, to stop thinking about someone, to stop thinking about the past, the future, and to be present. Almost like demons were casted out and we're suddenly freed.
I don't think it works that way. We are working to change our defaults and some of these patterns have been around since childhood. Deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves and how we expect people, the world, and even God to work. It is easy at the first bump in the road, to automatically go to our tried and true--yet dysfunctional patterns.
That powerlessness to change often makes most people quit. They unfortunately believe that it's impossible to change. This part of themselves (inner critic) is too powerful, too loud, etc. It's that black and white, all or nothing, perfectionism thinking that derails people. Because most people try to solve their problems with the same tools that created them. Playing right back into their inner critics' control.
There's an old concept that people seeking recovery need to embrace. Self-compassion. I have lived my life this way for a very long time, it is going to take time and work to change. I accept that and I am going to make mistakes and that's ok. I trust that a power greater than myself will help me.
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Limiting Beliefs Board Break
09/19/2026 Saturday (Manalapan, NJ)
What are limiting beleifs? A prison without doors or walls that exists only in your mind. How do they hold you back in life? Without most of us even noticing.
We will do some writing assignments, share, watch a video, draw/write our negative beliefs on wooden boards, and we'll take turns breaking them with our hands. It is a powerful feeling to do something you feel you can't. (Good starting point for people interested in fire walking).
Glasswalk
10/24/2026 Saturday (Manalapan, NJ)
A firewalk happens pretty fast usually within a few seconds. A Glasswalk, by comparison, is much slower. An eight foot long path of broken glass. We navigate it deliberatly and adjust our footing to keep moving forward toward our goal.
Burn the Boats Firewalk
11/07/2026 Saturday (Manalapan, NJ)
Join us for an evening of connection. We connect to each other, to ourselves, and to the fire. We write letters that we offer to the fire. Talk about time. We share why we are here. We write and talk about where we run to when we are afraid--our boats. Then we'll burn them at the fire and embrace a new path with a ten foot firewalk!
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